Unapologetically speaking, anyone that gives me an excuse as to why they've been so absentee in my life; friend, family, significant other, whoever, that is the automatic signal to me, that it is cut off time. If said individuals reasoning, doesn't involve life or death circumstances for them or someone in their family OR the struggle of low monetary means, then I don't want to hear it. Even the monetary means situation is relative because in my personal experience, if I want to spend time with a person but they cant get to me because they have no money, then more than likely I'll offer to pay for the travel. If that is indeed the case and I'm offering to pay then the next sentence should be "I'm on my way." Even if a person lived too far to get to me EVERY SINGLE TIME then the communication should be relatively consistent. We have too much technology in this day and age to not have complete tabs on our loved ones. If your presence is lacking in my life one way or another then honestly at that point your presence will no longer be wanted anyway. I wish everybody I loved thought how I did when it came to this subject. I say this because, there's me, the ever-loving friend, companion whoever, always on deck and more than ready to be supportive and alert and present. There's not a day that goes by that I dont check in on at least four people I love. Even the ones I dont see often will have a random I love you via test or inbox waiting for them frequently enough. Those same loved ones that I go above and beyond for are most times oblivious to it. The reason being is because nine times out of ten they have their energy invested into someone who is not as invested in them. Being the one who is always invested, all the time, dealing with this blatant disrespect becomes hurtful as well as annoying. I'm always going to tell my loved ones how much I care about them. I'm always make sure my loved ones have eaten and that they're healthy and emotionally stable. No matter what. The same loved ones will be waiting on that same treatment from someone who wasn't even thinking about them long enough to send out a quick "You Okay?" text. Months will go by with no word, and still excuses will be made. It's really so fucked up. Seemingly, stopping the world for the person that treats you like shit, while not even fully appreciating the one person that is constantly there.
SIDEBAR: Yes, even if a person hasn't done anything to outwardly hurt you, or haven't made you feel like scum in recent memory, if THEY can go days, weeks or even months without talking to you or at the very least checking in after YOU have tried on NUMEROUS occasions then that person IS INDEED TREATING YOU LIKE CRAP!! NO IF ANDS OR BUTS ABOUT IT.
To accept that terrible behavior and still even TRY to reach them all the while ignoring the effort in front of you, or treating it lightly, is like a punch to the gut or a slap in the face. I'll be the first to remind you, no one enjoys being beaten up.
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