The Sky Is Blue.

Happy September!! I hope everyone had a great summer. I put my blog on hiatus these past few months to actually enjoy myself. Unfortunately, things didn't quite go  as planned but at least I got a few great things to write about out of it. I learned some new things this summer  and more importantly some of the notions I already  choose to live by were reaffirmed as well. I've always prided myself on keeping  my heart sort of hidden from a person until I felt that they'd earned it. I did and will continue to do that because people say things like "I love you" the way they say "the sky is blue." Some people of my generation and forward don't seem to grasp the fact that those words, especially when spoken romantically, including  the actions that follow, should not be for just anyone. Some people are so hellbent on getting a label out of a person. So beyond eager to claim and be claimed, to have a beloved "title"that it wouldn't even occur to them  that the title they are dying to get and/or give to a person does NOT match the story that is being played out between them. Which is why I barely believe in labels to begin with. A title does not a relationship make. The actions that follow, the love felt in the movements during the times that words aren't spoken. That is the essence of a relationship.  That's not to say I'm going to sit around bashing labels, it's clear that patriarchal western civilization is  really into them. But I feel like labels and any plans that come with them are not something to be given away on something immature.  Like a crush or someone who is merely a "good time." I also feel like just because a person doesn't believe in labels doesn't mean they don't deserve loyalty. Especially if said loyalty is being reciprocated. Loyalty is sticking to a commitment you made with one person not taking their love and using it as the fuel for one to give love to someone else, who didn't earn it. That is disrespectful, to say the least. For a while this summer I found myself wandering from my original standpoint on the insignificance of labels and trying to see things from the other side of the spectrum. But I realize now, if a person loves you and wants you the way you want them. That will be felt. If a person does not want you, no amount of commitment you give to them in whatever label you are under will change their mind. If someone wants YOU to be their main focus, you will be and nothing and noone in the world can change that.  People have to start coming to terms with the fact that you cannot force anyone to be loyal to you. No matter the excuses. NOONE can make anyone do what they dont want to do. It's a shame to because most people tend to destroy the hearts of those who are best for them, but that's neither here nor there. The most you can do going forward is to accept the person for what they are, love with caution and hopefully find someone who values and desires you as much as you value and desire them. Regardless of all else.