Stunted.

So much has been going on this week. One of the most important things I've learned is, we as individuals, can't concern ourselves with people who aren't ready for constructive change. Even if some of these people are those that we love dearly and wholeheartedly. We can't force anyone we want to grow and flourish just because we are already headed in that direction. Statistically, people go through about five to eight different stages throughout their lifetime. Some people make  ridiculously valiant  and stubborn efforts not to become the last person that they're meant to be. Some are more comfortable, being stagnant in the adolescent process even as adults. Some people are the happiest resting within the bosom of their stunted growth. The unfortunate few that exhibit that behavior take pride and delight in being damaging disrespectful and perpetually immature. Make no mistake, I'm perfectly okay with people being the person that they want to be. What I don't understand is WHY a person would WANT to be someone who walks around consistently and pridefully disrespecting others and making people uncomfortable on the daily basis. People tend to get defensive when they feel as though people are trying to turn them into a different person. I understand that. No one wants the message conveyed to them that they are not good enough, just as themselves. However, not all change is bad change. If someone you love makes it clear to you that you are disrupting their peace of mind and everyday life by spewing pestilence, hate and predominantly patriarchal nonsense, why would you want to CONTINUE being that person? What kind of a person could even ENJOY  bringing someone that sort of despair? Certain behavior should be confined to certain stages of life and when it's  known that this stage of life is coming to an end you must grow beyond that. Although it may be scary at the time, not only is it necessary but it is also worth it. Everyone who chooses to remain stuck in their ignorance , even after it is expressed to them how much pain it causes those that love them, deserves to be left there. Stewing in their chosen blindness, alone. I personally believe, that is the hardest part for those who love people who choose to live in that manner. Letting go. Realizing that despite our best efforts, they are not ready for the road that has  been awaiting  them for many years passed. Those who are welcoming to growth, need to learn how to let thse who aren't be their own guide. As much as we may care, everyone has their own journey. We can't take them hostage and force them into being stronger, more positive and overall better versions of themselves. They have to WANT to do that, solely on their own. Until they make the decision, to choose that more positive lifestyle it is more than understandable for them not to be a part of yours. With or without explanation.