Bound To

I'm slowly learning that real love goes through real changes. In the beginning there's the honeymoon phase where everything the other person does is absolutely wonderful and you can't seem to spend a minute without them. And the thought of doing exactly that brings on anxiety coupled with a mini conniption. Time goes on and you eventually remove the love goggles and start to see actual flaws. It is then you have to decide whether you can handle what is being presented in front of you. From my experience it is a HUGE mistake to try and mold what's in front of you into some unrealistic figment you believe it should be. What is there was there BEFORE you got there and will be ever standing LONG after you leave.  Soon enough however, even more time goes by and you've settled into the groove  that is a seasoned relationship. The courtesy of remaining 'primped and proper' has vanished replaced by sweatpants tube socks and oversized t-shirts. It's refreshing though, because all that's left is honesty and comfort. Those are two things that should NEVER fade aside from the love(that goes without saying). I've also come to realize that it's detrimental to keep things fresh, play games. Put new twist and spins on you're relationship to bring you and your significant other closer together. It's really all about revitalization. And I guess if you do find yourself stuck in a relationship rut of sorts, take a step back and broaden your horizons. Yet and still, remain upfront with your loved one. That way you can fully affirm that where you are and who your with now is exactly where you want to be. Simply put if the  relationship means anything at all, or just about anything worthy of interest for that matter, you must do the work to keep it strong and happy. Understand that it is sooo easy to fall in love, keeping the love is where the adversity lies.