Lights.

One of the hardest things to come to terms with is the fact that not everyone we meet and everyone we love will think and/or operate the way we as individuals do. There are people out there who are the type to go above and beyond when someone they love is in dire need of  support. Whether bonded by blood or the the purity of overcoming seemingly unbearable obstacles, there's  always that likely chance that you'll come across a situation that highlights where you and your loved one differ in the handlings of daily life. Some of those differentiations will come as a shock , some of them will be confusing and some of them will be downright agreeable. Either way it is not our jobs to fret and despair over how other people may or may not treat us. If you do something for someone and later down the line when realize that they wouldn't do the same for  you, all you can do from that point is modify the way you treat that person. Weigh out your options and truly decide if going above and beyond for someone who wouldn't do the same for you even worth the stress. That's not to say that that makes the other person who doesn't operate on your personal wavelength a terrible human being. You may love this person with all your heart, all the would mean going forward is that you now know what boundaries not to cross. You know the limits to set for yourself when it comes to this person and that's not something to be apologetic about. It is the universal struggle to comprehend that we are not responsible for how other people treat us or how other people choose to behave. If we are being our best selves to a person but still feel that they are lacking in the same treatment it is not our job to build them or change them. Granted humans naturally help each other grow by surviving through adversity. That being said, it is not our sole purpose to assemble another human being. Only true purpose is to better ourselves then and only then can we work on helping someone else. Even so there are boundaries, it is not only ridiculous but cruel to dim your own light in order for someone else to shine. It is okay if not everyone you love to treat you the best all the time. No one is always going to be their best self, the world is too complicated for that. However comma it is sad and not really wise to let that particular behavior from said love one question everything you know to be true not only about your life, but about yourself. No matter what happens even when you make a mistake, react badly, get emotional or even make a really stupid mistake, it'd be best not to forget your inner light. Imperfection and embracing of the struggle does not make a person any more or less special than anyone else. Ever.