Not in the Sandbox

I feel like this past week has been a rough one for me. I feel like those closest to me see me as the antagonist in my own life story. I honestly think though, that people are confusing "rude" "evil" or just straight up mean , with me being honest. Now I'm not talking about the kind of honesty that requires a person to be a bastard about everything they say, you know, like the whole "no offense but..." thing, but there are indeed levels to this shit.  Excuse me for making my point so bluntly but, I am a grown ass woman. As an adult in 2015,  ANYONE absolutely has the right to give not one fuck if they don't see fit. Point Blank Period. It's so strange to me too, that people get all offended, and all in a tizzy because others are choosing to be real with who they are and stand by what they believe. When did it start being okay to be a fraud? When did it start being okay to judge others and throw stones, when the same one's judging are making the biggest messes with their lives? Who the hell give anyone permission to tell anybody how to live, what to say  and what kind of person to be? Noone. And at this point, because we're all grown up now, if you don't like how I am then don't fucking talk to me! If you don't like how I handle things, stay away from me. People come into eachother's life to teach us things we can grow and learn from. They can affect us positively or negatively that choice relies on the individual and the individual alone. Either way, as much as you may love someone, nothing in this world is permanent. The same way someone  can be warmly welcomed into your life is the same way they can exit, and just as fast.  Let me reiterate, we are grown, it's time to put on our big girl panties and our big boy boxers and begin the journey of treating ourselves as such. We are now responsible for ourselves. That doesn't only apply to doing laundry, making sure you eat and paying a cell phone bill. That applies to emotional well-being and mental stability as well. No one is going to put anyone on time out for you. No one is going to hold your hand , no one is around to make you kiss and makeup with a person. The choice is  wholeheartedly yours. One has to love themselves enough to know what role each individual is playing in their life. Who is the pestilence, and who is the sunshine? Who are you stressing over and why? Differentiating longevity versus quality in friendship or any relationship for that matter, can be the difference between a life full of pain and a life full of joy. People often confuse longevity with quality, and those are usually the ones who aren't grown up yet. Just because you've known somebody for a long time doesn't mean they've positively affected you in a long time. You can know somebody your whole life and  since the day you met them they've brought you nothing but grief. How is that okay? How is that healthy? The answer is, it's not. Letting someone judge you based on what you believe is your personal truth, be it your morals,  religious beliefs, or sexual orientation, when did that become acceptable? Not sure? That's because it isn't. Step off of the playground, and into the real world because no one is going to look out for you better than you can.