I would be lying if I said I didn't have things in my life that I wish I could have done differently. Everyone has a situation or two that just went completely left. There is absolutely no shame in acknowledging that we are imperfect. I'm starting to learn that it's not really the 'being perfect' moments that count, it's how you salvage things AFTER the proverbial shit has hit the fan. It's all about how you mend what you may have damaged, and the effort you take and being a better person going forward. Humans come with tempers, tears and sometimes just straight disrespect, but some of these humans, we actually really love. As awesome as it would be to just forget about everyone who ever hurt you and just live your life never caring, it's impossible. Everyone cares about someone, even they don't even know it yet. On the other side of the spectrum though, if one has tried on numerous occasions to make things right, only to get consistently shunned, then they have all right to let go. I believe many people thrive on longevity and blood relation to hurt others without consequence. You may have known someone for a long time, or you may be related to someone and they may be someone you truly care for, but if you have done all you can do Stop Doing It. If you made a mistake and you were woman or man enough to apologize and they are not ready to forgive you yet, it is no longer your job to hold on to the situation. Especially, if you apologized and you don't even think you did anything wrong. Blood or otherwise you don't owe anyone anything because at the end of the day you did not ask to be here. And by here I mean on this earth. I hate that people say "oh you only get one set of parents", "you only get one true love", "you only get one best friend." Golden Rule: treat people how you would like to be treated. Nothing more nothing less. I don't know about anyone else, but I'm not going to sit around and beat myself up, beg people to be in my life, and beg people to come see me. Not me. It's not about pride, it's about self worth. You are worth way more then having to beg somebody for their company, having to beg somebody for forgiveness when you've done your part. I rather have endless nights by myself then to plead for anybody, family or otherwise to be in my life. It took me a long time to realize that. Seriously though, we as people have to love ourselves more than that. To bring my point home even further, everyone knows that it's not blood that makes you family either. Blood has nothing to do with kinship. As a person, who is fully invested in his or her own happiness, go where the positivity is. If you don't want to deal with your biologicals because they make you miserable, you do NOT have to. Be free to live your life the way you want to. No apologies. Be the best version of yourself, the way only you can. Go wherever your face lights up. You owe noone, not one explanation. Find joy whatever you can get it because THAT is what counts the most when all is said and done. Carpe diem.
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