Handle.

Control is such a hot commodity these days because nobody wants to be caught feeling unstable. What people fail to realize is the only real stability you ever get in life, is the lack of it. It's impossible to control everything all the time. Noone can control the weather, only their intuition to pack an umbrella  and wear a light coat in case it rains. Life and death are also untamable. All that can be done is to make everyday count, and when there is a loss, grieve and honor their memory respectfully. One may not be able to predict and therefore avoid all the adversities that life can conjure, but it is best to keep in mind that the way we respond to these obstacles, are indeed, part of the free will concept. We are in charge with how we cope. Life is full of action, and it's up to us as humans to assess the situation and determine the most productive reaction. Honestly, that's the most surefire way to plant  feet on the ground when a person begins feeling like they're about to fall over. Majority of the time when people are assessing a situation, naturally they give two responses. The first response, is based purely on the emotional reception of the event at hand. The second response comes in after an individual has taken a second to breathe and rationalize what has played out in front of them. Meaning that, if one were to get insulted or perhaps get their heart broken, they may be feeling so inconsolable that their first inclination is to set their tainted paramour's things on fire. Obviously speaking, that is very dangerous as well as illegal. Though it may feel fantastic as a short-term goal, arson is not the answer. Which is where the second response would come into play. After a few deep breaths, and tears being wiped away , it is finally decided that instead of burning everything to the ground,  simply packing up prized possessions and leaving the terrible person and the ruins of the "relationship" behind will suffice. It goes without saying, the latter choice is way more reasonable albeit less satisfying. Still, it keeps an individual from the possibility of jail time. Seems like a win to me. At the end of each and every day, even if you can't control what comes your way you have full command on how it is to be handled. Don't neglect that or take it for granted.