We've got to stop thinking that people HAVE TO treat us how we treat them. The reason why people get hurt, the reason why hearts get broken is because people tend to put unspoken expectations to their loved ones. Just because you are kind doesn't mean anyone has to reciprocate. Just because you love hard does not mean anyone has to return the favor. Expectation is the catalyst to disappointment. I can't really speak for everyone else. I do know that personally, I struggle with knowing when to let go. I am so hell-bent on seeing the best of everyone and cultivating whatever good qualities I may find into my own life , that I don't stop and think that maybe the search efforts are not worth the discovery. Anything that cost us our self-worth, peace of mind and overall well-being it's too expensive. That's something that I know that I have to work on coming to terms with on my own personal journey. Another hard and painful thing is accepting that a person may not be the person they were when you made the choice to believe in them, initially. People change, and not always for the better. We have to take notice to when these changes are causing us more harm than good. Everyone we love, isn't necessarily meant to be in our lives. Hurting ourselves and dimming our light so someone else's can shine brighter is a suffering we have to learn how to avoid at all cost. We must learn to sacrifice for ourselves the way we do for others. We have to learn that that's okay to do, and that there's no need to apologize for it. It's perfectly fine that we love ourselves the way we love others, if not more. It's not easy but it's okay to do.
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