"And" NOT "Or"

As a black woman, I must say that I get highly offended when I advocate for  the sexual agency of myself and others and get seen as some sort of "Hoe" or "Hoe lover." Even more disgusting, are these hotep ass black men and unawakened black women who scream #BlackLivesMatter but refuse to acknowledge that it is okay for a woman to be  sexual and dress however she sees fit and act however she sees fit, without having her black girl magic revoked. The really devastating part of all this is that I don't even think black women understand that the word "Hoe" is a black man-made word. It is used to express the angst and hatred that deluded black men have for black women for choosing to love themselves. Black women who don't know any better, or at least act the part, add fuel to the inevitable fire by bringing more life to this word, as well as others.  Hoe, Slut, Thot, Skank, Slide. Are all words that say, even if you have a 4.0 GPA or close to it, even if you have TWO ivy league degrees like our First Lady Michelle Obama, even if you are business savvy , entrepreneurial, an artist of some sort or musically inclined, if you are independently, unapologetically sexual YOU ARE NOTHING. If you dress like you own your body , if you twerk and move your hips in AND out of the club scene , if you choose to have sexual freedom, the kind that patriarchal society gets commended on , if you have more than one baby at what the world sees as "too young" your accomplishments cease to exist. All you are now is Hoe, Slut, Thot,Skank, Slide. That's a shame. If black men don't get punished or penalized for what they do with their bodies when they see fit then why should black women?  Black men love to fetishize us. Catcall us. Harass us. For our big lips , full breast,ample behinds, and wide hips. Drunk with objectification. Yet and still, are oddly silent when we want to wear what we want. Sleep with who we want. Dance where we want. Give attention to who we please. As if our bodies were soley made for the control and appeasement of the black man's penis. Spouting all that foolishness " Women should dress how they want to be adressed" that is LITERALLY  the same thing as saying "If that black man's pants are sagging he MUST be a thug, with no future, therefore we are MANDATED to treat him as such." Complete and utter fuckery. The same way black men should be able to talk and dress and walk wherever and do what they see fit without the very real possibility of losing their life to bias, racist police, black women are owed that same respect from black men. Without question nor hesitation. This also applies to the LBGTQI community, with lesbians who choose to absorb the "hotep male mentality" and bestow it upon their partners, seemingly forgetting that they too, are women. Get your shit together. Black women don't have to make a choice. Black women should be able to do whatever they want with their bodies without being shamed in anyway. There is no "intellectual OR sexual?" complex. That only exist in the world men want women to abide by. It's intellectual AND sexual. Get over it. To disrespect the black woman is to disrespect yourself. Seriously.