The Planner.

I had a conversation this morning that made me grateful for being the person that I am. A friend and I were basically talking about what it means to leave things to chance and what it means to be prepared for things. I exclaimed that there was nothing wrong with using the analytical and logical parts of your brain to get the outcomes you see fit. Furthering that,  that particular mental state can be applied to any situation whether it is a personal matter  or one pertaining to business. My friend wholeheartedly disagreed with me. She said that I shouldn't even say things like that, because it would be difficult for me to attain anyone's trust. Yet and still, using your analytical and logical brain to get the outcome you want has less to do about the manipulation of a person and more to do about the manipulation of one's default personality. Making little discrete changes to oneself to see forth the outcome desired. That's not necessarily manipulation either, more so, adaptability. If you care about a person and you find yourself growing infatuated with them, it wouldn't be wise to start your relationship based on lies. Obviously however, you're going to do your best to put the best version of yourself forward so the object of your adoration will be intrigued with you. Not lying. Not manipulation. Adaptability. My friend felt as though you should leave things like that to chance and let the proverbial pieces fall where they may. I will always stand by my stance on not necessarily wanting to "wing it" leaving possibility for error or missed opportunity. If that is something one can easily prevent then why shouldn't they? For nobility? Why would that even be a issue if the only one aware of sudden humbleness is that individual person? People are always adamant about maintaining some sort of moral high ground. Without realizing that the definition of morality and nobility is relative and this is depending on the circumstantial evidence. Being prepared for things, especially in personal affairs doesn't automatically imply that whatever feelings may exist are less genuine. In my opinion it  displays much naiveté to even assume so. If anything, being prepared and having a set execution could only show how much you care because you took the time away from the humdrum uncertainty of being completely oblivious to be unapologetically aware. There is no harm or fault in that, as it should be commended. Besides, I've never heard of anyone losing life or limb for being overly prepared, have you?